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As excerpted from “Maximize
Your Presentation Skills: How to Speak, Look and Act on Your Way to the Top©” By Q. Small talk is such a waste of time, and I resent having to do it
at work, but apparently it is now part of my job. How do I get over my dislike of small talk? A. You can’t. Not as long as your perception of “small
talk” is “meaningless, demeaning, wasteful chatter.” The implied meaning is “I am wasting my
time and talents.” Never underestimate
the power of small talk or the art of conversation. Conversations—even the cautious opening
gambits we call “small talk”—are the building blocks of long-term business
and personal relationships. Ellen’s Hot Tips The
Perfect Presentation of “Bonding Conversation.” Never make small talk again!
Here’s how. Change the paradigm. Start
thinking of all your conversations within the context of important, meaningful,
profitable “bonding conversation.” Bonding conversation is not boring,
and don’t you be either. Honor yourself, your time, and your energy. Be prepared to utilize this time well. Bonding conversation is an
opportunity to get a feel for a new
person and begin a new relationship, whether it be with a potential client or
a new friend. Bonding conversation can be delicate,
nuanced, and entirely enjoyable. Bonding conversation is the cup of coffee,
the cocktails, or the milk and cookies shared between people. The real meaning lies not in the
discussion of the weather or the care and feeding of a pet. The
meaning and purpose of bonding conversation is to get a sense of the other
person and to learn about that person’s values, thoughts, and perspectives. Talk about things that matter to
you. Mention something that you just learned or
read. Bring up a word factoid, an
amazing or amusing statistic. Start a
dialogue. Ask questions and listen to the
answers. Ask questions form the information you learned in
the answers to previous questions. Be
curious but do not pry. Once you change your perspective and start to use these tips and
techniques, the benefits to you are endless.
You will develop more friends, cultivate more clients, and enjoy your
life more. As you open the door to
more conversations, you will experience more bonding and more success. If you hate small talk, contact ____________________________ Books | Topics | Book Ellen | Services | Media about Ellen FAQ’s | Meeting Planners | Press Center |
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